Guide for gay sex
Ever wanted to know the secrets to becoming a power bottom? Want to know how to glance after the bottoms in your life? Curious to give bottoming a strive but not sure how to begin?
We can support you become a greater bottom! Here are some quick bottoming tips and tricks from ACON’s peer-workshop Booty Basics.
1. Lube
The arse does not produce its own lubrication.
This means that lube is really, really important for any anal play. First, to end damage to the internal lining of your arse. Second, to make bottoming (and topping!) more pleasurable. And third, to serve protect it from infections.
Remember to use water or silicon-based lubes, as oil-based lubes can damage condoms.
2. You
The second principle is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and emotional aspects such as making sure you sense safe, making sure there is consent, that you feel comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
Remember, sex is best for everyone if all the people involved are motivated by trying to maximise everyone’s pleasure safely. You can’t be a good companion and you can’t exposure pleasure for yourself if you’re stressed or uncomfortable (bottom or not!).
3. R
Would you describe yourself as douche-curious? Perhaps you’ve been douching for a while but are looking for pointers. However seasoned you are at putting things up your butt, there’s always something new to learn! So we’ve lay together a beginner’s reference to anal douching with everything you need to know when you desire to start squirting down below. 😉
What is anal douching?
Douching is the perform of shooting a jet of warm water or a saline solution into the rectum to fresh it out before sex. Douching uses several types of devices to accomplish this, each referred to as a ‘douche’. We’ll cover these in more detail below.
Some people may instead use what’s acknowledged as an enema for douching. These are medical devices designed to relieve constipation and are not recommended for douching, as they often come with a medicated solution to soften stools or utilize a far greater volume of liquid than is required when preparing for anal sex.
Should you douche?
That’s up to you! Whether you douche or not is entirely up to the individual.
Many guys prefer to douche because it reassures them of no surprises when it comes to hooking up. But for those who preserve a fibre-rich diet and drink plenty of
LGBTQIA+ Safer Sex Guide
Zero.
Disgracefully, that’s the number of U.S. states that necessitate sex education curriculums be comprehensively inclusive to LGBTQIA+ folks.
Most sex teaching programs, instead, assume that those receiving the communication are both heterosexual and cisgender. If there’s anything less cute than clogs, it’s that degree of homophobia and transphobia.
That’s why we worked with GLSEN, Advocates for Youth, and two queer sex educators to create a safer sex guide that understands the true complexity and diversity across gender identities, sexual orientation, attractions, and experiences.
Only 5 (ish) percent of LGBTQIA+ students saw any LGBTQIA+ representation in health class.
This guide is for the 95 percent of students whose many sexual health questions went unanswered in school.
It’s also for any LGBTQIA+ person who’s ever wondered:
- “What conversations should I have with a partner before sex?”
- “Is there a exposure of pregnancy or STI transmission during [insert sex act here]?”
- “What can I do to create sex even better?”
- “How do I become pleasant with my own body?”
Or anything else comparable to sexual health, sexual plea
The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.
I’m scared of bottoming
Most gay men will evaluate bottoming at some period. However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Don’t let that put you off.
You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse participate like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can fetch douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs.
Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do operate amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:
- have been linked with an increased peril of HIV transmission
- don’t mix with erection drugs enjoy Viagra and may bring about a heart attack.
Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.
Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, w
.
Would you describe yourself as douche-curious? Perhaps you’ve been douching for a while but are looking for pointers. However seasoned you are at putting things up your butt, there’s always something new to learn! So we’ve lay together a beginner’s reference to anal douching with everything you need to know when you desire to start squirting down below. 😉
What is anal douching?
Douching is the perform of shooting a jet of warm water or a saline solution into the rectum to fresh it out before sex. Douching uses several types of devices to accomplish this, each referred to as a ‘douche’. We’ll cover these in more detail below.
Some people may instead use what’s acknowledged as an enema for douching. These are medical devices designed to relieve constipation and are not recommended for douching, as they often come with a medicated solution to soften stools or utilize a far greater volume of liquid than is required when preparing for anal sex.
Should you douche?
That’s up to you! Whether you douche or not is entirely up to the individual.
Many guys prefer to douche because it reassures them of no surprises when it comes to hooking up. But for those who preserve a fibre-rich diet and drink plenty of
LGBTQIA+ Safer Sex Guide
Zero.
Disgracefully, that’s the number of U.S. states that necessitate sex education curriculums be comprehensively inclusive to LGBTQIA+ folks.
Most sex teaching programs, instead, assume that those receiving the communication are both heterosexual and cisgender. If there’s anything less cute than clogs, it’s that degree of homophobia and transphobia.
That’s why we worked with GLSEN, Advocates for Youth, and two queer sex educators to create a safer sex guide that understands the true complexity and diversity across gender identities, sexual orientation, attractions, and experiences.
Only 5 (ish) percent of LGBTQIA+ students saw any LGBTQIA+ representation in health class.
This guide is for the 95 percent of students whose many sexual health questions went unanswered in school.
It’s also for any LGBTQIA+ person who’s ever wondered:
- “What conversations should I have with a partner before sex?”
- “Is there a exposure of pregnancy or STI transmission during [insert sex act here]?”
- “What can I do to create sex even better?”
- “How do I become pleasant with my own body?”
Or anything else comparable to sexual health, sexual plea
The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.
I’m scared of bottoming
Most gay men will evaluate bottoming at some period. However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Don’t let that put you off.
You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse participate like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can fetch douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs.
Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do operate amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:
- have been linked with an increased peril of HIV transmission
- don’t mix with erection drugs enjoy Viagra and may bring about a heart attack.
Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.
Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, w
.