Being bisexual and christian
It was the day of New York City’s Event March in , and I had just arrived in the city from South Africa at the age of I decided to attend an evening church service at a well-known megachurch because I’d heard great things about the services they held in the Hammerstein Ballroom. Standing in line to get inside, I befriended a student from Kansas and surveyed the people around us who were also waiting.
Queer men and women stood in line with us dressed in rainbow colors, holding flags and chatting about the church service that was about to begin. I remember being so amazed that gay people were welcome at this church, and that they were comfortable enough to be so open about their sexuality.
Part of me felt jealous. I yearned to stand beside them and wave a pride flag, declaring that I, too, was queer. That I was bisexual and that I was proud. I wondered if the obeying year, I’d attend the Pride March with these new queer friends I’d made at church. It made me hopeful that my acceptance of my own sexuality was the first step in creature accepted by a church community.
I was immediately welcomed with open arms by the greeters inside and by the hosts that showed us to our sea
When I first came out as bisexual, I had no idea how to be both bisexual and Christian at the matching time.
I didn’t even recognize that bisexual Christians existed.
I had a vague notion of how some lesbian and gay Christians had reconciled their sexuality and their faith, but their stories never completely spoke to mine. They couldn’t.
How could a queer woman or gay Christian speak the decision to reach out as bi and open themselves to censure despite being in or pursuing only seemingly unbent relationships? How could their stories answer my questions about whether or not being attracted to more than one gender was inherently incompatible with entity a Christian?
In the three years since I first came out, I possess been exposed to a lot more lesbian and gay Christian stories; but I still find it difficult to discover pansexual Christian ones. While there are many solid generic bisexual resources online and a good number of LG-focused Christian ones, the resources for bisexual Christians are limited.
This means that the concerns that impact bisexuals are often not answered even in affirming Christian communities.
With that in mind, here are five things I desire someone had told me a
What does the Bible tell about bisexuality?
Answer
The Bible nowhere directly mentions bisexuality. However, it is clear from the Bible’s denunciations of homosexuality that bisexuality would also be considered sinful. Leviticus declares having sexual relations with the alike sex to be an abomination. Romans condemns sexual relations between the identical sex as abandoning what is natural. First Corinthians states that homosexual offenders will not inherit the kingdom of God. These truths apply equally to bisexuals and to homosexuals.
The Bible tells us that a person becomes attracted to both genders or homosexual because of sin (Romans ). This does not necessarily intend sins the person has committed. Rather, it refers to sin itself. Sin warps, twists, and perverts everything in creation. Bisexuality and homosexuality are caused by sin "damaging" us spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. Sin is the plague, and bisexuality is simply one of the symptoms.
Many Christians mistakenly concentrate on bisexuality and homosexuality as particularly evil sins. The Bible nowhere describes homosexuality as being any less forgivable than any other sin. A double attraction is the same number of steps away from sa
My first kiss was with my next-door neighbor—a adolescent boy in my class. It was back when I didn’t know what it meant to be queer, what it meant to be bisexual, what it meant to be trans. We were together under a flagpole at recess, he told me that the previous blackout was “Hershey’s Kiss” late hours at his church.
He asked me if I wanted a kiss. I did.
And so he leaned in and kissed me. It caught me off guard, but I wasn’t upset. I was the considerate of child prone to affectionate gestures, and this boy was one of my closest friends.
My first more intentional kiss came a few years later. Another close friend, the granddaughter of one of the pastors at my church. We were playing with another of our girlfriends, we snuck away to her second-story bathroom, and we kissed.
I appreciate both of these stories. They’re cute, and I’ve told both as my “First kiss” story. I like that I hold two different stories for two different genders.
Relaying them now, I realize that both involve a necessary mention of faith.
And it makes sense. My faith identity and my fluid identity (even if I didn&#;t always have a word for it) travel back as far as things can go. They are at the core to who I am, and any ex
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